Why Change is Easy When Your Parents Finally Die, by Wil Guilfoyle

People are reluctant to change, because to do so they would have to challenge previously held notions and beliefs shared by their own parents and perhaps their surrounding communities.

When we decide to drop old beliefs, this means we then become representations of challenges to the beliefs of others. Bible-belting parents look to their children who decide to drop these traditional beliefs as people destined for Hell. In essence, to drop the beliefs you and your parents share is to risk losing their love in some way.

Most are not willing to risk that love.

Thus it is only when people lose both parents that great change becomes possible. When there are no other people's expectations to live up to, transformation and letting go becomes a whole lot easier and happens a whole lot faster.

So the question is: Can you facilitate these circumstances without waiting for everyone around you to die? This is another benefit of meditation. You sit, and you sit with yourself. Over time, you settle into yourself, and become less reliant upon others to complete you in any way.

Then there are silent retreats. You go off on your own and remain to yourself for periods of time. Suddenly it isn't important for you to prove points, or be in agreement over beliefs. You may come to see that you are more happy when you are away from those who always stand firm in some belief or ideology.

It's okay to leave your whole life behind. You won't often hear this. But it is. It's okay to walk away from your family, friends, job, career, school, church, and country. You can leave it all behind if you want to. Many animals do. Many animals never see their parents or siblings ever again, after a certain age. And it's okay.

What isn't okay, is when people tell you that something is not okay, like I just did. So question everything. Question it all. And make Truth your highest concern.

All arguments and beliefs are relative, and therefore not absolute. What we are after is our own deepest Self, which is the absolute. It's so much bigger than the small ideas created by human minds for the last few thousand years with our increasingly more and more complex languages.

Let your parents die now. Dare to be the highest Truth there is. That's the greatest gift you can give to the world. That takes more courage than signing up to go shoot bullets into foreigners abroad and return back to this country scarred for life.

The Truth is more important than our deeply embedded indoctrination.